It's common for one spouse to move some distance away after a divorce. They may be seeking someplace with a lower cost of living than pricey Southern California. They may want to live near parents, siblings or other family members. Perhaps they opt to take a job that pays better or offers more opportunity for advancement.
Wanting to move on after divorce is a natural feeling. You do not want to dwell in the mires of the "what ifs" too long. However, if moving on in your mind includes a physical move with your children, you may not get to go so easily.
Many children realize at a very young age that they can "play" their parents against one another to get what they want. When parents are separated or divorced, this can be even easier to do. Often, all it takes is to tell one parent that the other won't let them do (or buy) something to get the other parent to agree. Divorced couples are often vying to be the best-loved co-parent, and what better way than to give your child something your ex won't? It's also a good way to get under an ex's skin.