When your children are young, you may not be sure how to set up custody in a way that is best for them. You know it's important for them to have a routine and stability. You also know that it's important that they see both parents.
Between the years of 1.5 and 3 years old, toddlers are at an impressionable age. Parenting plans have to consider a number of factors such as the fact that:
- Toddlers respond well to predictable routines and schedules
- Toddlers become strongly attached to caregivers, including parents
- Toddlers are curious and are constantly developing new physical skills, so each home must be safe
- Toddlers grow quickly, so a custody plan may need to be adjusted quickly, too
- Toddlers are sensitive to anger and tension, so conflict should be avoided in their presence
At this age, many children are scared of changes and need constant support and reaffirmations from their parents. It's necessary for them to see both of you regularly to form strong bonds. It may be a smart choice to schedule daily video or phone calls for the parent who is not with the child so that they can have some interaction each day during this sensitive time in the child's life.
Usually, toddlers can be away from a parent for two to three days, but more than that may be too much. Try to arrange phone calls or video calls if there are longer times between custody exchanges or visits so that your child does not feel abandoned or left behind by the other parent.