You hate the idea of getting a divorce but since you and your spouse have been fighting so often, you feel like it might be the only choice. There are certainly steps you can take to strengthen your marriage, though, and you may want to try them before you decide to pursue divorce.
Once you bring up a divorce, it can be like the final blow to your marriage. If your spouse feels that you're not invested, or you decide that they aren't, then you may decide just to move forward with divorce and to avoid fixing the problems you have.
You should keep in mind that a divorce is a serious decision and one that should come as a last resort. While it might be the healthiest choice for some couples, it's not the perfect solution for everyone.
How can you work on your marriage before deciding if divorce is right for you?
The first thing to do is to really commit to your relationship and making it work. Make a commitment not to consider divorce for a month or two, so you can focus on fixing your bond. During that time, you should talk to your spouse and openly communicate. Talk about how you think you've changed and your needs, and then talk about what theirs are. Doing this can help you reconnect and find solutions to issues in your home.
Finally, sit down and talk to your attorney about potentially filing for a divorce and what that would entail. You may find that this is not the right time due to your finances or other responsibilities. If instead you do decide that divorce is the right option, your attorney will be happy to help you file.